- 1.
Be truly single.
Don’t think: I’m too old, tired, or fat to do this. Do think: I just turned back the clock for a second chance.
- 2.
Lose your agenda.
Don’t think: I save time by laying out exactly what I want. Do think: Discover the person in front of me.
- 3.
Practice on social-networking sites.
Don’t think: I have no clue how to relate to a new person. Do think: I can use the Internet to learn how to flirt and try out my answers about my past.
- 4.
Forgive your mistakes.
Don’t think: I should be wiser by now. Do think: I’m braver, and I’ll get better at this.
Feeling a little rusty? Psychologist Judith Sills, PhD, recommends three attitude adjustments and a new skill.
Sills is the author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You’ve Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.
