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I’ve been taking care of Mom since Dad died 13 years ago. I get little help from two sisters. Mom’s health has declined, and recently she had a fall and broke her arm. I’m finding it harder mentally and physically to cope. I work, take care of her, and have no life of my own. I’ve begun to retreat to my room until bedtime. Am I just being selfish?
— Need Personal Time
You must tell your sisters you’re drowning and need a life
preserver. If they can’t be there to share the day-to-day “heavy lifting,” they need to help pay for relief — like visiting nurses, meal delivery services, house cleaning. Call the social services department at your local hospital. You can’t be expected to do this entirely on your own.
Some people think “the more the merrier,” but when my
husband and I invite a particular couple out, they ask friends of theirs along without consulting us. Then all of a sudden, it’s their party and we feel like fifth wheels. Isn’t it rude not to check with the ones who made the initial plans? And how can we stop this?
— Party Poopers
Yes, their behavior is boorish, but pointing out their rudeness may not be the best way to win or keep a friendship. Try asking this couple
to your house. I really doubt they’d extend that invitation to others.
If they do, or if they suggest you
add to the guest list, then you can surmise that they prefer their
entourage to your sole company. At that point, you can decide if you want to join their fan club or find friends who sometimes like to
socialize just with you.
I was promoted and moved
to a new group. There is
only one guy at my level there.
One day I walked by his cube and saw he was reading my report on
his computer. When I asked what
he was doing, he said he was checking my work. I told him he didn’t have the authority to do that and told him I was going to talk to my supervisor. I did, and my boss agreed with me. But he hasn’t stopped
this jerk, who still
secretly monitors me. Now I’m being left out of meetings and passed over for assignments. What can I do?
As someone once said, “Just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean people aren’t out to get you.” This guy is either a nut, or someone has given him authorization. Find out which. If Nosy is snooping on his own, he could be in trouble. Go back to your boss and demand he put a stop to it. And keep doing your job on time and up to par.
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My best friends are a couple I have known since junior high school 25 years ago. Recently the wife told me she’s having an affair with a co-worker, and I feel trapped in a dilemma. Should I betray her confidence and tell her husband — or keep my mouth shut and, in a way, betray him?
— Caught In the Middle
Stay out of it. Refuse to discuss this matter with either of them. Get clear in your own mind that the only betrayal occurring
is within their marriage. You have nothing to do with it. She is being unfaithful to her husband, and she has compounded this duplicity by trying to ensnare you as a co-conspirator. Tell her you won’t listen. And tell him nothing.
My boyfriend started lying
to me and verbally abusing me. I dumped him. He begged me to take him back. I’m 20,
and I don’t want to be stupid. Should I
give him another chance?
One chance. But only if he agrees to counseling. Otherwise, you could be headed into the classic pattern: abuse, remorse, apologies, promises, abuse. If he won’t seek help, get out while the gettin’s good.
Some people like to travel by train because it combines the slowness of a car with the cramped public exposure of an airplane.
I think my pilot was a little inexperienced. We were sitting on the runway, and he said, “OK, folks, we’re gonna be taking off in a just few—whoa! Here we go.”
“I can’t wait until your vacation is over.” —Everyone following you on Instagram
A man knocked on my door and asked for a donation toward the local swimming pool. So I gave him a glass of water.
Comedian Greg Davies
Just found the worst page in the entire dictionary. What I saw was disgraceful, disgusting, dishonest, and disingenuous.
Client: We need you to log in to the YouTube and make all our company videos viral.
My cat just walked up to the paper shredder and said, “Teach me everything you know.”
“Just because you can’t dance doesn’t mean you shouldn’t dance.” —Alcohol
@yoyoha (Josh Hara)
My parents didn’t want to move to Florida, but they turned 60 and that’s the law.
Q: What do you call an Amish guy with his hand in a horse’s mouth?
A: A mechanic.