The goal of tutoring is to get the child out of tutoring.
If the tutorâs references include students sheâs been tutoring for years, thatâs not a good sign.
I was once paid $3,500 a week to basically run a kidâs entire life.
I worked with him on time management, tutored him for standardized tests, and helped him with every single piece of homework.
Please, call me early.
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Rather than think it over and let any issues get worse.
When you meet a prospective tutor for the first time, have your child with you.
You want a tutor who engages the child, not someone who talks
to only you.
If your child already scored in the 90th percentile on the SAT or got straight Aâs with just one B,
Iâll take your money, but the kid probably doesnât need a tutor.
Donât hire a tutor who teaches at your childâs school.
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The first thing
sheâll do is go to your childâs classroom teacher and say, âTell me
about this kid.â Thereâs a chance the teacher will taint the tutorâs
impression. Itâs better to start with a clean slate.
Most kids arenât spending as much time on their work as they say.
lot of the time, I can tell that the hour theyâre working with me is
the only hour theyâre working on that subject.
Teachers get the kids during the best part of the kidsâ day.
them when theyâre fried and exhausted after a full day of classes.
Before bringing your kid to tutoring, let him or her have a little time
to unwind after school, if you can.
If you want a homework monitor or someone to tutor your child in one subject, I can help.
But if you want to solve a bigger problem or catch
your child up to his peers, you should have him evaluated for
learning or language problems before you start tutoring.
I learn new things from my students all the time.
hundreds of sessions focusing on Great Expectations, I can still gain
something valuable from a discussion about it. Kids I tutor have
pointed out literary connections I hadnât considered.
At a tutoring center, ask how much individual attention your child will get.
Some centers put kids in groups, hand out a bunch of
worksheets, and then charge an exorbitant fee.
Please, give us a little space.
If youâre hovering or pretending to
do something in the room so you can eavesdrop, it just makes it harder
for me to do my job. I know you have good intentions, but one reason
tutoring works is that Iâm not the parent.
Good tutors cut back on talking and let students identify their own errors.
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In the best sessions, the student is talking just as much as
the tutorâor even more.
Tutors for toddlers? Itâs a big business.
But the truth is, most children under age five donât need a tutor.
A lot of parents donât want to hear this,
but your child might never
be an A student, and thatâs OK.
Ask your tutor to give you some feedback after the session,
especially if you have a young student. What did they do in the session?
What should your child be working on during the week?
Iâm not a babysitter.
If you decide to drop your child off and go to
Costco, please pick your child up on time.
Itâs pretty easy to inflate the scores on a diagnostic test to make it look like your student is doing better after tutoring with me.
more important is how your child is doing in school and whether his
teacher has seen a difference.
Sources: Tutors Gail Hawkins in Oahu, Hawaii; Janice Christensen in
Chicago; Jennifer Little, owner of Parents Teach Kids in San Diego;
Peter Hall, an online tutor who has clients across the United States;
and Marina Koestler Ruben, author of How to Tutor Your Own Child