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10 Tips for Finding True Love and Happiness

How to meet and marry the man of your dreams, and how to have the life you want and the happiness you deserve!

By The Garter Brides from ThirdAge.com

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In their new book Love for Grown-ups: The Garter Brides’ Guide to Marrying for Life When You’ve Already Got a Life, the Garter Brides (Ann Blumenthal Jacobs, Tish Rabe and Patricia Ryan Lampl), a sisterhood of girlfriends who wore the same garter at their weddings, offers lots of tips for women over 40, including how to meet and marry the man of your dreams, and how to have the life you want and the happiness you deserve! Here are their top ten tips:

1. Leave the past in the past
When you meet someone new, leave any negative feelings or past heartbreaks just where they should be—in the past.

2. You won’t meet someone new in your living room
Well, maybe a cute guy will deliver your new sofa, but chances are you’re going to meet someone by getting out there and trying new things—online dating, taking a class, etc. Tell everyone, especially your married friends, that you’re looking to meet someone and ALWAYS go to parties. Because you truly never know who you’ll meet.

3. Give the guy a chance
When you were 20 your list was “he must be tall, dark and handsome.” Try going against type. It just might be a perfect fit.

4. Look at blind dates like a first date
Two of the authors of our book met their husbands on blind dates, and you can too! If you’re not sure you want to sit in a noisy restaurant, go out and do something fun. One of our Garter Brides went to a baseball game, and she and her date each brought a friend. They had a blast and got married one year later.

5. Time is on your side
Take your time in getting to know your guy and don’t feel in a rush to meet his children or have him meet yours. It starts with the two of you. Make sure this is someone you want in your life.

6. Isn’t it romantic?
Just because you’re meeting the love of your life later in life doesn’t mean you can’t still have passionate, amazing sex! The Garter Brides say “Go for it!”

7. Someone to come home to
When you’re ready to move in together you will discover how wonderful it is to come home to the one you love. Be prepared for some give and take—for example, over which of each others’ belongings stay or go.

8. What’s up with a pre-nup?
Remember that a pre-nup isn’t because you think your marriage isn’t going to work—it’s so you get to decide how your assets and everything you’ve worked for can be protected.

9. Your wedding, your way
Now you’re in love and it’s time to have your wedding exactly how you want it. The Garter Brides have had all kinds of weddings! Remember it is all about you and the man of your dreams. Whatever you want is the way to go.

10. Happily ever after can happen to you
Remember what the Garter Brides always say: “It’s never too late to find true love. We did, and you can too!’

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    Sorry, I have ascertained that the modern USA female, for many varied and sundry reasons, is unworthy of a decent male’s attentions.

    Better to simply avoid the inane creatures to maximize life happiness.

    • Jiawenlin

       i think you hold a too sad look over women

    • Andrea

      That’s quite a generalization, isn’t it? Eliminating a whole group of women because of our nationality? It’s an incredibly ignorant move. 

    • mc6453

       And this observation comes with your vast knowledge and close relationship with American women from east to west, north to south?? American men are just as obsessed with fake breasts, fake lips, fake hair, fake personalities as SOME American women are, then complain that we are ALL superficial and materialistic! You get what you think about, so maybe you should re-evaluate where your thoughts concentrate.

    • Good-man

       Others can pretend they don’t know what you are talking about. I’d pay for someone to find me a loyal, faithful, honest, loving American woman. They are sparse. A good man may be sparse too, but we are out here. So,  I guess I’m saying that a good relationship partner is sparse. Then there is the problem of a good woman wanting a bad guy, which narrows it down more.

  • Jrsnash

    disagree- its all about you….no….its about what both of you want….if you go in with that attitude….”princess syndrome” ….good luck…..self entitlement in eaither sex is toxic!!! Number nine is setting a relationship up for failure…agree or not….common goals and dreams are key!

  • Eric Binder

    But the marriage is not just a business between the boy and the girl. They decide to plight their troth,however,prospect of wedding is cloudy if one person’s parents disagree the other.They see the condition from all the aspects:background,house in city,personal car…,to determine if the marriage life is happy with that guy.Not true love can determine everything!

  • Marivic Calimag

    i hope that the right man will come in my life……very interesting tips.

  • Gg12

    What a load of bolloks! If you follow this list, you’ll be more miserable than you were before you read this crap.

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