4 Tips for Getting Back Into Dating | Reader's Digest

4 Tips for Getting Back Into Dating

When life plunges you back in the dating pool you can follow these tips to push away those normal jitters.

from Reader's Digest | August 2009

     

    Feeling a little rusty? Psychologist Judith Sills, PhD, recommends three attitude adjustments and a new skill.

  • 1.

    Be truly single.

    Don’t think: I’m too old, tired, or fat to do this. Do think: I just turned back the clock for a second chance.

  • 2.

    Lose your agenda.

    Don’t think: I save time by laying out exactly what I want. Do think: Discover the person in front of me.

  • 3.

    Practice on social-networking sites.

    Don’t think: I have no clue how to relate to a new person. Do think: I can use the Internet to learn how to flirt and try out my answers about my past.

  • 4.

    Forgive your mistakes.

    Don’t think: I should be wiser by now. Do think: I’m braver, and I’ll get better at this.

  • Sills is the author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You’ve Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.