Let go of the past.
Reunion-stage couples often see each other through the sad and bitter filter of years’ worth of regrets, resentments, and unfulfilled dreams. Experts say one of the keys to making the second half of marriage happy is letting go of old grudges and moving on. Let history be history, say marriage experts Claudia and David Arp. A second chance needs a clean slate. Their advice: Write down your grievances privately, then decide which you can live with, which you can fix on your own, which are worth mentioning to your mate, and which truly stand in the way of marital happiness. Forgive what you can, fix what you can, and have one discussion with your mate about issues you wish were different, then hold on only to the biggest, most important matters — such as growing closer emotionally and physically and deepening appreciation and respect.