One day, marriage therapist Patty Howell confided in her husband that she’d always wanted to be a top-notch rose grower whose flowers were perfect enough to display in flower shows and even win trophies. “Ralph agreed to support and help me,” Howell says. “He dug holes for the roses, helped prune them in the winter, and helped transport the cut blooms to shows. He helped out quite a bit so that I could reach my goal.”
Setting off in your own direction for even a few hours a week, yet being married, is a tightrope walk. It’s joyful and invigorating, scary and sometimes a little lonely. Yet finding your own personal bliss and pursuing it can enhance your relationship precisely because it makes you a happier person. It can also reduce conflict and frustration in your marriage by taking the pressure off your spouse for being entirely responsible for your happiness — and vice versa.
Further, it’s a great way to boost self-confidence. When University of California, Berkeley, researchers tracked hundreds of couples over several decades, one pattern they found was that people who had higher self-esteem and who saw themselves as effective were happier in their marriages. And so were their partners. Individual happiness will make your marriage happier. In a University of Missouri-Columbia study analysis of 225 research papers on happiness involving 275,000 people, researchers found that people who were happy had better social relationships, including happier marriages.
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A man knocked on my door and asked for a donation toward the local swimming pool. So I gave him a glass of water.
Comedian Greg Davies
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Q: What do you call an Amish guy with his hand in a horse’s mouth?
A: A mechanic.