Marriage Advice: 7 Relationship Tips to Get the Love You Want | Reader's Digest

Marriage Advice: 7 Relationship Tips to Get the Love You Want

Expert advice and relationship tips on the best ways to form a tighter bond, unlock more happiness, take on tough issues, and keep your marriage solid for a long, long time.

By Sarì Harrar and Rita DeMaria | Ph.D. from Adapted from The 7 Stages of Marriage

Marriage Advice to Pick the Right Time and Place
6. Pick the right time and place. Don’t start potentially tough talks if you’re not well rested and well fed. Hunger and fatigue can unleash nasty remarks and dark thoughts. Ban booze for the same reason. Save it for when you’ve achieved detente. That’s worth a toast.

Don’t ever try to deal with serious marital issues if you’ve got one eye on something else. Turn off the TV, the phone, the laptop. Close the catalog.

If you’re distracted or going out the door, pick another time to talk. You can’t resolve conflicts on the fly.

Remember, too, that how you handle these situations doesn’t just affect you. Is the conversation G-rated? Will it end happily? If not, stop and reschedule for when the kids aren’t around. When they are, keep things respectful and productive. Research shows that children thrive (and absorb good relationship skills) when parents resolve issues constructively, but develop insecurities and behavior problems when exposed to hopeless shoutfests.

Next: The single-most powerful step you can take to keep your marriage solid »