Uncommon Sense: “Tell My Friend about Her Bridesmaid’s Bad Behavior?”

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By Jeanne Marie Laskas from Reader's Digest Magazine | June 2013

I was the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding, and there was one bridesmaid—a cousin of the bride—who was causing drama constantly. The bride was none the wiser to her behavior, but I’m still reeling. Do I tell the bride how awful her cousin was or keep my mouth shut? —Miffed Maid


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    • Chinki K

      Look back from past and you will see how you enjoyed your friend’s wedding and made it spl. for her OR you can see how everyone else was enjoying n you wer caught up in mentoring a bridesmaid!

      PS: whats weddings without some family drama!

    • Pennagirl

      It was one event; a few hours out of a day. What purpose does it do by informing the bride?

    • KAF1958

      Keep it to yourself and be glad she isn’t YOUR cousin.

    • Tara

      Wedding’s over – let it go. You’ll probably never have to spend time with the cousin again. If you do, you can politely decline, and tell your friend that you and her cousin didn’t hit it off, and leave it at that.

    • Dorothy

      to Miffed Maid: Your best friend’s wedding day wasn’t about you. If she was none the wiser concerning her cousin’s behavior, keep it that way. Perhaps YOU are the only one reeling.

    • AL-Rushoud, Nasser O.

      Comlaining to your fruend is not a good idea at all… Talk to her directly instead.

    • Alison

      The key word is “was”; why would you want to initiate negativity into your best friend’s memory of her most special day to date, by bringing up something that is over and she was “none the wiser” to? Ignorance is bliss, so if you’re a true “best friend”, allow her to be blissful. Alison Bennish

    • Gramps

      Keep quiet! – Do not live in the past – what is done is done and if you want to remain friends with the bride(newly-wed) then remain quiet. Otherwise you will stir up trouble with an “I said, she said” and YOU WILL LOSE a friend or maybe more than one!

    • Joanne

      Seriously? When you graduate from grammar school and move on in life, you’ll be able to discern what is important and what isn’t. This isn’t. Move on.