Uncommon Sense: “Help! My boss is pushy and controlling!”

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By Jeanne Marie Laskas

My boss is pushy and controlling and often takes credit for my hard work. His poor management style is also stressing me out. I don’t want to just give up, and I can’t quit this job. What can I do to make it better?—Feeling Defeated


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  • Your Comments

    • Sydney

      Work through it. If you love your job, then you can work through how bad of a boss he is. If you work really hard, then maybe you can get a promotion that will get you a much better boss.

    • L. Brown

      This is my advice for Feeling Defeated (May 2013), who has a pushy boss:

      Go to a therapist to discuss work issues and develop a plan with her for coping with the job. Together, you can consider other options if the situation doesn’t improve for you in a timely manner.

    • TryingToBeHelpful

      If you happen to walk by him, sigh and say “I feel like my hardworking never pays off.” Pretend you do not know he is there. If he does not comment, look straight at him and say “How would you feel if I never gave you credit for your work?” Talk to him as he is a friend. If he says “Excuse me?” respond “Why don’t you ever give your employees credit for their own work?” He will feel guilty. If he says “It doesn’t pay off. You are only and employee.” or something similar, say he is selfish. He will feel guilty, and pray to God he will not fire you.

    • JR from Dallas

      Dear Defeated:
      Well Jason Garrett, you may as well quit as head coach of the Dallas Cowboys, Jerry Jones is never gonna change!!!

    • Ralph

      Since you said that you “can’t quit this job” I think the answer is obvious: suck it up, do your job as well as you possibly can, and let your competence outshine your boss’s selfishness. In the end, you’ll be the better person.