1. Yell, whistle, or wave money and I'm going to make you wait. Make eye contact and smile, and I'll come over as soon as I can. Know what you want and have your money ready. Don't create a traffic jam.
2. Start a tab. If I swipe your card five times this evening, thatâs five times as much paperwork I have to do at 4 a.m.
3. You want a drink made 'strong?' Then order a double-for double the price.
4. Liquor sales in bars and restaurants were down 2.2 percent last year. Even beer sales are slow. But people scrimp on food first, drinks second.
5. A lot of bars have comp tabs, which allows me to give away drinks. It's smart business and helps build a base of regulars.
6. Bars that don't have regulars (in hotels, airports) have started using wireless gadgets that measure how much is poured and automatically ring up each shot. They're meant to prevent overpouring and to cut losses, but I don't like them-neither do customers.
7. If your tipping guideline is still 'a buck a drink,' listen closely: That doesn't fly if you order a $12 cocktail. Tip at least 15 percent.
8. At some bars, the sliced fruit garnishes sit out until theyâre gone, sometimes for days. Munch accordingly.
9. The smoothest guys compliment a woman, then walk away-it's very nonthreatening.
10. I have the police on speed dial, and I never hesitate to call.
11. Don't order a round of drinks after last call. Last call applies to everyone-even you.
12. Some of us get a cut from the cab company when we call a taxi for a tipsy patron. Not that I've ever done that, of course.
13. Last week, a couple had a little too much and got into a dumb argument, then asked me to choose the 'winner' of the fight. There isn't a tip big enough to get me involved in that situation!
14.â¨If I cut you off, donât argue.â¨ If anything, you should apologize if youâve made a scene. â¨â¨
15.â¨Get a room.â¨ The more you make out with your date, the closer you are to being cut off. â¨â¨
16. â¨I've heard it all. â¨One guy told me I had the worst smile heâd ever seen. I found out that he thinks a girl wonât remember him unless he puts her down. I guess it worked; Iâm telling you this story three weeks later.â¨â¨
17.â¨Think tending bar isnât a real career?â¨ Youâre wrong. The craft of bartending is coming back, and some of us are even called âmixologistsâ now. â¨â¨
18.â¨ I love sharing what I know.â¨ If itâs not busy, ask me about the history of drink or the latest cocktail Iâve invented. Youâll learn something new. â¨â¨
19.â¨ I like a sophisticated palate.â¨Youâll win points with me if you request gin in your martini. â¨â¨
20.â¨ My knees hurt.â¨ Bar mats prevent slipping, but I really like them for the cushioning. I use sole inserts in my shoes, too. â¨â¨
21.â¨ I can tell if your date is going well or not.â¨ And I notice if you bring in a new date every week. â¨â¨
22.â¨ Everyone should bartend a few nights in his life.â¨You learn so much about people. â¨â¨
23.â¨ I'm not a piece of meat.â¨ If youâre going to hit on me all night, at least leave a big tip. â¨â¨
24.â¨ It happens every time.â¨ The songs you line up on the jukebox will play right as youâre leaving. â¨â¨
25.â¨ I do more than mix drinks.â¨ I love being your psychiatrist-matchmaker-entertainer-friend. Otherwise, I wouldnât tend bar. â¨â¨
take a cab.â¨â¨â¨
Sources: David Craver, president, National Bartenders Association, and anonymous bartenders in Boston, Kentucky, Florida, California, and Illinois. Interviews by Bridget Nelson Monroe.