Is your spouse an Ironman or marathon veteran? If so, then you may be among the growing number of spouses that are being “widowed” by endurance sports. A recent Wall Street Journal article profiles spouses who feel like widows and single parents because their fitter half is out the door before dawn swimming, and gone for hours on the weekend running or cycling.
The effect extreme exercise has on divorce rates is unclear. But what is clear is how resentment can grow towards a spouse who chooses running, say, over being with his or her spouse.
What’s a widowed-by-exercise spouse to do? You don’t need to run a marathon but you can join your spouse for part of his workout. Meet him for a few miles during long weekend runs, offer to time interval training at the track or the pool, or volunteer at a race.
Exercising can be beneficial for relationships. When both partners have healthy minds and bodies, they are more likely to feel better about themselves and be a better partner. If you’re an endurance athlete, make sure you check in with your spouse to gauge how he is feeling about your extensive training hours. Don’t forget to schedule date nights regularly, especially since you’ll need to carbo-load for your run the next day.
Source: The Wall Street Journal