4 Tips for Getting Back Into Dating

When life plunges you back in the dating pool you can follow these tips to push away those normal jitters.

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Feeling a little rusty? Psychologist Judith Sills, PhD, recommends three attitude adjustments and a new skill.

1. Be truly single. Don't think: I'm too old, tired, or fat to do this. Do think: I just turned back the clock for a second chance.

2. Lose your agenda. Don't think: I save time by laying out exactly what I want. Do think: Discover the person in front of me.

3. Practice on social-networking sites. Don't think: I have no clue how to relate to a new person. Do think: I can use the Internet to learn how to flirt and try out my answers about my past.

4. Forgive your mistakes. Don't think: I should be wiser by now. Do think: I'm braver, and I'll get better at this.

--Sills is the author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.
From Reader's Digest - August 2009
 
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