The Ultimate Sex Guide for Newlyweds (page 3 of 3)

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The excitement of getting married gives couples a hit of dopamine -- a feel-good brain chemical that increases sex drive. For a few months after marriage, things may stay hot
Don't use sex as a bargaining chip. Angry? Say something -- don't grunt or "hmph" and roll over. Withholding lovemaking when you're upset turns this deep, vulnerable connection into a nuclear weapon for power struggles. Adding layers of resentment to your feelings about physical intimacy is a surefire way to make sure neither of you will be in the mood.

Have realistic expectations. And in particular, dial back on multi-orgasmic, transcendental expectations. Even for the most happily married couples, more than 10 percent of sexual encounters aren't even pleasurable for one or both spouses, Dr. McCarthy says. An off night -- maybe the sex is hurried, you're tired or distracted, or simply uncomfortable -- doesn't mean you've got a big problem. It's life. Don't expect perfect sex every time -- or wait for the perfect moment to pounce on your mate. Just connect!

Make it eye-to-eye, soul-to-soul. You'll feel more vulnerable -- but couples report they also feel sexier, more attractive, more in-the-moment, and closer when they look into each other's eyes during sex.

Never underestimate the power of a quickie. You won't always have all the time in the world for making love -- and maybe you don't already. Don't overlook fast sex. It keeps the two of you in the intimacy loop, so you don't jeopardize the compassion, happiness, romance, and understanding that sexual closeness can bring.
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85 percent of the people had had sex before trying the knot. Unbelievavle!! A man and a woman have absolutely positively NO RIGHT AT ALL to engage in sexual intercourse until they are properly married both in the eyes of the Church and in the eyes of God. Fornication is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is natural ordered to the gifts of spouses and the generation and education of children.

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