15 Steps to Surviving an Affair

I just found out a little over a month ago that my husband was having an affair. It wasn't his first. He had one in 2004 - We went to counseling, he was quick to cut it off, I forgave him, we renewed our vows - basically everything on this list. This time, he refused to cut it off, blamed me for everything, and took no responsiblity. Just in the last couple of days, he's decided that he wants to work on our marriage. I honestly don't know how I can stay married to him after a SECOND affair!

I am 6 months down the road from discovery of a year long affair my husband was having with a woman out of state. Mostly a phone thing but still hands down the most pain I have ever felt in my life. The pain and crazy emotions will become less for those of you that are hurting so bad right now..I promise! Your marriage can be saved if you BOTH are committed to working hard to repair the damage--hard work but it's been worth it. Out of the ashes something beautiful always grows..you'll see :)

My wife is returning to Australia from a one-month visit to Canada. I found out last night she had an affair with an ex-boyfriend who now lives in Montreal... I am picking her up at the airport in a few hours and am at a loss on what to do.Yes things have not been rosy lately, most of that exacerbated by her depression which leads to alcohol abuse. But I do love this woman immensely. We have no kids and have been together for 10 years.

I found out 1 month ago my husband was seeing someone at work, she worked under him, through the cell phone bill. We have been married 12 years and I never thought he was the type to do this. We have been working to repair the damage done. It just hurts so much because she is there every day with him and although he has sworn he doesn't talk to her on a personal level anymore and he avoids her at all costs it still hurts. I know I need time

I wish that I could apply this article to my life! My husband of 22 years is currently involved in a 2 year ongoing affair with a coworker. Even though I have the proof and have confronted him, he continues to deny everything - and the affair continues. I am still with him, for a multitude of very complicated reasons - and yes, I still love him. But I can't take much more.

My 37 year old husband had an affair with a 19 year old girl that he works with. I first noticed something wasn't quite right when became very distant from me and our two boys. He blamed it on stress and work. Then I found a barrette in his car, he explained it away and I chose to believe him. Then one night, I caught him talking to her on the phone. I told him to leave. He came back after 10 days. We are working it, dating and putting each other first. But, Im so hurt and I'll never trust him

My husband an affair with an (ex)friend of mine about 4 years ago. He never went through the remorse/regret stage. He just swept it under the rug and expected me to do the same. My healing as never fully taken place. We have 6 and 3 year old daughters, so I do my best to make it work. Will I ever be fully healed without his commitment to the healing process?

I know for a fact that he has let go of this affair but through access he gave me to his email I found out that this girl will not leave him alone. Stating that she is going to go to his work if he doesn't get back to her. He asked me what I want him to do, but I don't know. He has already told her it is over, but she just doesn't get the picture.

Ladies, Why do we think we are crazy, what did we do or not do? When it's our husbands who disrespected us & the vows we exchged, never thinking twice about what this would do to us! Of course they think they wont get caught! Stupid! To screg47, & anyone else, I have found that in result of this I have PTSD- as it was so extreme, find a therpist, talk about it all, then bring him into it and let him hear about fears, pain, distrust. Keep a journal if not already, that helps. On facebook

Ana, My heart aches for you as I read your post- I too found my husband w/ another, which lasted with all it's BS almost 9 mos. That was almost 2 years ago, He did return home, sorry & begging, working thru all issues slowly.But it still hurts as if it were yesterday. I have nightmares flashbacks, panic attacks & Ive come face to face. You need to talk to someone alone & w/ him, tell your feelings, fears, wants etc & ask his. Trust has been broken. MY ? only once? Want to talk, on facebook