True Stories: Inspiring Words from Real Couples

Surprising words of hope from everyday marriages.

By Sarì Harrar and Rita DeMaria | Ph.D. from The 7 Stages of Marriage
  • I love being married, but it can be challenging. If you try to maintain an attitude of fairness and an ability to admit when you’re wrong, you can get through most things.
  • We decided before marriage that divorce was NOT an option. Our problems would be worked out no matter what. Of course, it helped that we were at least 10 hours from the nearest in-law, so running home to Mama wasn’t an option.
  • Divorce is too easy these days. In a marriage, you have to keep working at it and not just focus on the bad qualities. You’ve got to remember the good qualities of your partner, why you loved them when you first married them.
  • Keep an open mind, openly communicate, and don’t let things get out of hand. Handle small slights and problems immediately. It’s been positive in our marriage and has helped us to survive.
  • My wife and I don’t make very many decisions by ourselves, especially when it concerns family needs. We are very good about bouncing ideas off each other. We don’t argue. We just state our opinion to each other and go on loving.
  • We both willingly give up our wants and our needs for the other’s benefit. We have always bolstered each other and tried to keep our criticisms gentle, never bringing each other down intentionally. We are always willing to forgive and forget quickly, and go forward.
  • Communication is the most important thing — without it on both sides, there is no marriage. The point is not trying to change the other to fit our desires; it’s taking them as they are.

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