As I write this, I am 34 weeks pregnant with fraternal twin boys, and my husband and I couldn’t be more thrilled. But it sometimes seems as if strangers will say anything to try to bring us down from our happy cloud. Sure, we’ve gotten used to people staring at me as if I’m a zoo exhibit when I waddle down the sidewalk. But there are certain comments we hear way too often that we’ll never get used to—even if we have learned to laugh them off.
So, to help ensure that other expecting couples never have to hear these unpleasant comments, I’ve compiled a list of 10 things never to say to a pregnant woman you’ve just met—especially one who’s expecting twins or more!
1. STATEMENT: You look like you’re ready to burst!
TRANSLATION: You look like a beached whale!
I began hearing this gem at about week 32 of my pregnancy, from everyone from waitresses to the salesgirl at Pier 1 Imports. And honestly, it’s the last thing a very pregnant woman needs to hear when her hormones are raging and she can no longer fit into her largest maternity clothes. So please don’t say it. You wouldn’t tell a stranger she looks fat if she wasn’t pregnant, would you?
2. STATEMENT: Twin boys? You’re sure going to have your hands full!
TRANSLATION: Your kids are going to be crying, pooping, hell-raising little terrors.
People just love to point out the negative aspects of having twins—the hard work, the long nights, etc. I’m not sure why. All my husband and I can think about is the joy the babies will bring to our lives—the cuddles, the smiles, etc. Those rewards will far outweigh any of the inconveniences. Double trouble? Sure. But also double the fun!