Schedule isn’t a dirty word
While taking to time to plan may seem like the quickest way to ruin your weekend, according to Sarah Allen, Ph.D., it’s the best way to make sure everything gets done without cramming everything in at the last minute on Sunday night. “Sit down with your partner on a Friday evening and break the weekend into six blocks: Saturday morning, afternoon, and evening and then the same for Sunday,” explains Dr. Allen. “Write a list of to-dos and who is going to be responsible for what and then schedule them into the blocks of time.” Creating a block schedule helps couples decide together what needs to get done and how best to use the time they have left to spend with the family.
Talk out the to-dos
You and your partner may have entirely opposite expectations for the weekend, so it’s best to talk about it before the weekend gets underway. “Many women keep the to-do list in their heads and not written down. Meanwhile their partner is blissfully unaware and is looking forward to a relaxing weekend because they think they don’t have anything to do,” says Dr. Allen. “This leaves the woman overwhelmed and probably irritated that she has to do ‘everything.'” To avoid one partner feeling overwhelmed and the other feeling ambushed, it’s smart for both to make your expectations known.