Do you two have what it takes to endure? Professor and sexologist Pepper Schwartz, PhD, offers five ways to probe your feelings—and prove your love:
[step-list-wrapper title=”” time=””] [step-item number=”1. ” image_url=”” title=”Do you have trouble finding solutions to problems together?” ] It’s not about persuading your spouse that you’re right. It’s whether the two of you can consistently find a comfortable middle ground.[/step-item]
[step-item number=”2. ” image_url=”” title=”Is your spouse making most of the decisions?” ]Your point of view needs a full and fair hearing before you both decide on an outcome.[/step-item]
[step-item number=”3. ” image_url=”” title=”Does he or she withhold affection?” ]It’s not just about sex—holding hands and hugging are essential. Do you share a smile or kiss at the end of the day?[/step-item]
[step-item number=”4. ” image_url=”” title=”Is your mate defensive? Are you?” ]Shoulder responsibility and suggest a do-over. That will make it easier to admit you were wrong.[/step-item]
[step-item number=”5. ” image_url=”” title=”Is he or she inflexible?” ]You don’t want your spouse to be stuck in a rut. The priorities you set 20 years ago may not apply if one of you loses a job or gets sick.[/step-item][/step-list-wrapper]
Bottom line: If you’ve answered affirmatively to most of these questions, it’s time to get to work. Discussing your answers might be a good place to start.