He’s suffering from depression.
“Clinical depression is one of the biggest killers of sex drive in men,” says sex therapist David McKenzie. Men of all ages, even teenagers, may experience much lower sex drive when they’re struggling with this mood disorder. You can: “Remember that clinical depression is a physical illness and not a character weakness,” says McKenzie. The key here is patience, especially after he seeks treatment—while antidepressants are very effective in treating depression, they can also contribute to low sexual interest. Your partner may want to speak to a doctor if he notices severe interference with his sex drive.
He’s got trouble with the plumbing.
Though erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are common
problems, says McKenzie, a man who experiences these difficulties may
withdraw from his partner for fear that she’ll be disappointed or think
that he’s less of a man. You can: Not avoid the issue. This can be difficult to discuss, but a problem left
untreated could result in resentment. “Start by saying,
‘You know I love you no matter what,’” suggests David, a 28-year-old musician. “Don’t make a big
deal out of it or make him feel like it will affect your interest in him
as a partner if he can’t make it happen.”