The 36 Questions That Can Make You Fall In Love with Anyone

This quiz from psychologist Arthur Aron has helped boost intimacy between thousands of strangers, resulting in friendship, romance, and even marriage.

Can you really fall in love with anyone? In a 1997 SUNY Stony Brook study, psychologist Arthur Aron explored whether intimacy between two perfect strangers could be accelerated by having them ask each other the 36 personal questions below. Since Dr. Aron created the quiz, he's even seen it rekindle romance in long-term relationships. "When you’re first in a romantic relationship, there’s an intense excitement, but then you grow used to each other,” Dr. Aron told Berkeley News. “If you do something new and challenging, that reminds you of how exciting it can be with your partner, it makes your relationship better.” These questions take about 45 minutes to complete, with each becoming increasingly personal and intense. Dr. Aron and his wife Elaine, a psychologist who also studies love and relationships, have also used the quiz to bond with couple friends (platonically) over dinner dates. Also read these adorable true stories of people falling in love.

Question 1

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Question 2

Tatiana Ayazo/ Would you like to be famous? In what way? Follow these tips for finding true love and happiness.

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Question 3

Tatiana Ayazo/ Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

Question 4

Tatiana Ayazo/ What would constitute a “perfect” day for you? These quotes perfectly capture what it's like to fall in love.

Question 5

Tatiana Ayazo/ When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

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Question 6

Tatiana Ayazo/ If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? Follow this marriage advice to get the love you want.

Question 7

Tatiana Ayazo/ Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Question 8

Tatiana Ayazo/ Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. For movie night, watch these romantic classics.

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Question 9

Tatiana Ayazo/ For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

Question 10

Tatiana Ayazo/ If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Question 11

Tatiana Ayazo/ Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

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Question 12

Tatiana Ayazo/ If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Question 13

Tatiana Ayazo/ If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? For more relationship tricks and tips visit this page.

Question 14

Tatiana Ayazo/ Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

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Question 15

Tatiana Ayazo/ What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Question 16

Tatiana Ayazo/ What do you value most in a friendship?

Question 17

Tatiana Ayazo/ What is your most treasured memory?

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Question 18

Tatiana Ayazo/ What is your most terrible memory?

Question 19

Tatiana Ayazo/ If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Question 20

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Question 21

Tatiana Ayazo/ What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Question 22

Tatiana Ayazo/ Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

Question 23

Tatiana Ayazo/ How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

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Question 24

Tatiana Ayazo/ How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Question 25

Tatiana Ayazo/ Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ..."

Question 26

Tatiana Ayazo/ Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ..."

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Question 27

Tatiana Ayazo/ If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

Question 28

Tatiana Ayazo/ Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Question 29

Tatiana Ayazo/ Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

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Question 30

Tatiana Ayazo/ When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Question 31

Tatiana Ayazo/ Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

Question 32

Tatiana Ayazo/ What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

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Question 33

Tatiana Ayazo/ If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Question 34

Tatiana Ayazo/ Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Question 35

Tatiana Ayazo/ Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

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Question 36

Tatiana Ayazo/ Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
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