The Perfect Valentine’s Day Gifts for Every Stage of a Relationship

Can't figure out what to buy for Valentine's Day? Whether you've just started dating or have been together for year, this gift guide has got you covered.

For a brand new love interest

01-brand-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia sugarwish.comAn over-the-top gift can either work for you or against you. "Select something meaningful that indicates you are looking towards a bright future, but you are not needy or desperate," says Diane Gottsman, a national etiquette expert and owner of The Protocol School of Texas. To be safe, steer clear from anything too personal unless you are absolutely certain the feelings are mutual. (And then, are you really sure or is still just wishful thinking?) It's better to be sentimental but cautious – dinner for two at your apartment or a playlist made specifically for him or her. Or if you want to buy something, consider Sugarwish, an experiential "pick your own" candy gift that lets the recipient to choose their own sweets or A Full Leaf Tea Tasting Crate. It's thoughtful (especially during a cold time of year) but it's still just tea. (Get our free Valentine's Day guide packed with dozens of quick tips and sweet ideas for an amazing V-Day celebration.)

Dating one to three months

02-1-3-how-to-pick-right-valentines-gifts-via westelm.comFor a couple who's just getting started, gifts are likely to be casual and oriented toward each individual. Keep it simple! For example: "Chocolates and perfume are perfect for up to three months. You guys have just started dating, so don't go overboard," says Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking. A few ideas: Offer a touch of candlelight or, if they enjoy coffee, this sweet mug with tiny gold hearts from West Elm is sure to be a hit. Check out these 15 signs that your relationship is solid as a rock.

Dating three to six months: Modest jewelry

04-3-6-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia dogeared.comJewelry is always good, but don't splurge too much. "A heart necklace might seem a bit cliché, but it's also a great gift because the price point can be on the lower end when you have only been dating for a few months," says Trombetti. To make sure there's no confusion, consider something like this simple heart from Dogeared. (Don't miss these tips on how to clean jewelry at home.)

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Dating three to six months: DIY Cocktails

03-3-6-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia amazon.comIf your Valentine is a budding mixologist, a bar pack like this one from Bitter Truth is a great gift. With unique flavors like tonic, peach, olive, cucumber, and chocolate bitters, and a card filled with recipes inside, it's a simple yet thoughtful gift.

Dating three to six months: Cashmere socks

05-cashmere-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia pairofthieves.comIf she's always cold, a pair of cashmere socks like these from Pair of Thieves is budget friendly, but really thoughtful. Besides, you can never have too many socks.

Six months to a year of dating: Gemstone jewelry

06-gemstone-how-to-pick-right-valentines-gifts-via bijouxxjewels.comYou know each other really well by now. You have articles of clothing in each other's apartment, or occasionally share the same toothbrush out of necessity. "The same rules above apply, but now you are even more certain of their interests, so something personal should be in the mix. A modest piece of jewelry says 'I love you' without saying 'I am committing myself forever.' A necklace, bracelet, or great pair of earrings would be great for her," says Gottsman. This pear-shaped, amethyst drop pendant from Bijouxx is perfect because it's meaningful yet still affordable. Another idea: Gift your Valentine a picture of the two of you on a vacation, in a pretty frame for his or her desk.  

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Six months to a year of dating: A plant

07-plant-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia plantogram.comForget flower deliveries; everyone does that. A fun idea for someone with a green thumb is to treat them to fully grown plants. From mango trees to tea plants, Plantogram is your go-to for greenery.

Six months to a year of dating: A journal

08-journal-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia via-pyramid-collections.comDoes your partner have a way with words? Then what better way to chronicle a start of a serious relationship than with a Tree of Life journal from Pyramid Collection? The leather cover's symbol represents growth, knowledge, and strong roots—all good messages to send on Valentine's Day.

Dating one year

09-year-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsiStock/kieferpixYou can do a little more at this stage, but aim for something more thoughtful. "Gifts for all senses such as a romantic dinner, music, flowers, and a massage are sure to delight," says Trombetti. "You can create a whole day out of it and have a date day/night!" Here are some creative date night ideas to inspire you.

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Dating one year: A gourmet steak dinner in

10-gourmet-how-to-pick-right-valentinesvia omahasteaks.comIs he a carnivore? Get him a delivery of premium steaks. It'll be like going to a fancy restaurant, but you won't have to get dressed. Better yet, treat him (and yourself) to Omaha Steaks, which is offering a Romantic Dinner In package of filet mignon and lobster tails. For the real foodie, Snake River Farms offers an American Wagyu Steak Flight. Lastly, if you want to go luxe, New York Prime Beef offers elite packages like the Kobe Japan steak box.  

Dating a few years/living together: French press

12-french-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia williams-sonoma.comIf your S.O. is on the moody side before his or her morning coffee, this elegant Espro Copper Press P5 is perfect for any couple living together, because it's secretly a gift for both!

Newlyweds

13-newlyweds-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia ithoughtofyou.com"There might be high expectations for the first Valentine's after the marriage, so be sure to make it memorable," says David Mitroff, PhD, a marketing expert. If you are trying to go frugal (i.e. you still have a pile of wedding bills to pay may be looking to upgrade to a bigger home), find a gift that they cherish while still staying true to your budget. A hand-carved Cinta Embrace Sculpture could be just the thing—it even comes gift packaged!

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Newlywed: Sheets

14-sheets-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia craneandcanopy.comYou're probably at the stage in your relationship where you are spending more time in bed than you ever will again, which means the finest bed linen is a great gift idea. Crane & Canopy's 400-thread count Nova Duvet Bedding is high quality at a price that won't shock.

Newlywed: Keepsake jewelry

15-keepsake-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia shireeodiz.comIf you recently got married and aren't on a tight budget, splurge for a piece for your significant other that she will hold onto for years, such as a pair of classic diamond earrings, like these from Shireeodiz. To help your relationship last, follow this marriage advice of people together for 50+ years.

Married for less than a decade

16-married-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsvia cofileathers.com"Sometimes a relationship in this category might get back-burnered because of the demands of starting and raising a family, so this holiday is great for spicing things up or reminding each other of core values of the relationship," says Dr. Mitroff. This Valentine's Day, treat your wife to one of her favorite things, a classic handbag. This platinum hobo from CoFi Leathers will help her stand out from the crowd and remind her every day of how much you love her.

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Married for a decade-plus

17-decade-how-to-pick-right-valentines-giftsiStock/Squaredpixels"It's back to the basics for established couples. Try revisiting past date locations and relive previous amazing experiences!" suggests Dr. Mitroff. Reenact a first or favorite date, surprise her with breakfast, or write a love letter from the heart. And jewelry never hurts.
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