The cheater knows what they’re doing is wrong
F8 studio/Shutterstock It’s easier to point the finger at the cheater and blame them for betraying your trust. But, believe it or not, you may have set yourself up for heartbreak by not clearly communicating your expectations with your partner from the beginning. “One of the main predictors of cheating has to do with not having the uncomfortable monogamy conversation early on,” says Sadie Leder Elder, PhD, assistant professor of psychology at High Point University in North Carolina. “People are too scared to say, ‘I like you and don’t want you to be with anyone else.’” It’s important to be upfront with your partner about what you want, need, and expect from them. If they can’t give you the type of relationship you’re looking for, then your best bet is to move on before you get hurt. Watch out for these 12 signs your partner is cheating on you.
Cheaters are narcissistic and manipulative
Cheaters come in all shape, sizes, and personalities, which means they’re not always the relationship villains we portray them to be. “Some cheaters have a more deeply ingrained unconscious, self-sabotaging style,” says Anthony Tasso, PhD, ABPP, clinical psychologist in Whippany, New Jersey. “At the core, they don’t feel worthy of a healthy relationship so the affair becomes an avenue to undermine and possibly destroy their partnership.” (Here are 17 signs you’re the toxic one in the relationship.)