You sleep back-to-back and far apart
iStock/LARGEAlthough sleeping with your back to your partner and a space in between you might not seem too romantic, one study found it's the most common of all couple sleeping positions, likely because it's practical. After all, having a little personal space is what kept these couples married for 50+ years. Twenty-seven percent of the couples surveyed for the study identified this position as their primary one. Corrine Sweet, the relationship psychologist who carried out the study, says the position shows their couples are connected and secure. "This position shows both closeness and independence in the relationship," she says.
You love to spoon
iStock/LARGEWhen it comes to couple sleeping positions, this one's a classic. In Sweet's study, 18 percent of couples said they spooned when they snoozed. She says the position demonstrates a dynamic where one partner is protective over the other. Remember, the signs that you can trust your partner aren't always the most obvious. Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of Success Signals: A Guide to Reading Body Language, told Cosmopolitan it's also sensual. "It's a very vulnerable position that's sexual, but says, 'I trust you,'" she says. But beware the spoon position turning into a chase: If your partner has retreated toward one side of the bed and you've gone to follow him or her, something could be amiss (this is not to confused with the "loose spoon," which tends to occur as a couples' relationship matures).
You sleep back-to-back and touching
iStock/LARGESigns of love aren't always grand gestures. They're often simple gestures, like these little things you can do to make your marriage happier—or you can touch butts when you sleep. Sweet's study found back-to-back with butts touching to be the second most popular of the couple sleeping positions. So what does it mean? "Both partners are relaxed and comfortable with one another—this is often common in new relationships," says Sweet.
You start the night intertwined, then move apart
iStock/LARGECouples who sleep in this position tend to start the night with their arms and legs intertwined while facing each other, and move apart after about 10 minutes. "It's a compromise between intimacy and independence, allowing for the best of both worlds," says Sweet. Her study found that 8 percent of couples sleep like this.
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One person dominates the bed
iStock/LARGENot all couple sleeping positions signal good news. In fact, the way you sleep could be one of the signs your relationship is toxic. If you wake up in the middle of the night cowering in the corner while your significant other starfishes across the bed, there could be a power struggle at play. "One partner dominates the space, while the other takes a secondary role," Sweet says.
You sleep with your head on your partner's chest
iStock/LARGEWe can all learn something from couples in the "honeymoon phase," because they're masters at those tiny but endearing ways to make your partner feel loved, just like this sweet position. It's common in new relationships and even rekindled relationships, says Sweet. Only 4 percent of couples sleep like this.
You spend the entire night intertwined
iStock/LARGEYes, there is such a thing as being too clingy, and it's typically a major warning sign for relationships. If you spend the entire night clung together (arms and legs intertwined and facing each other), it could indicate you and your partner lack independence from one another and feel the need to hold on tight.
You face each other but don't touch
iStock/LARGESleeping with your face toward your partner (and theirs toward you) could indicate an emotionally demanding relationship. "This position shows a need for intimacy and close communication," says Sweet. Even in your sleep, you and your partner are begging each other for more. Start by brushing up on your listening skills, then adopt these ways to strengthen your relationship in an hour into your daily routine. If you put in the effort, you'll start seeing improvements sooner than you'd think.
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