You don’t feel in control
Control is a common theme throughout the answers to a survey on emotional abuse conducted by the Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness. Feeling like your partner is controlling to the point where you lose your independence is a red flag for emotional abuse. (That doesn’t mean all partnerships are perfect, of course—check out these myths about happy relationships.)
You no longer hold the purse strings
Having a degree of financial independence and flexibility is important in a relationship. “In emotionally abusive situations, there might be some economic abuse as far as keeping all the victim’s money,” says Colleen Schmitt, director of Day One, a network of domestic violence and sexual assault community programs in Minnesota. These other behaviors are subtly sabotaging your relationships.