Don’t stalk him or her on social media
Unfollow your ex from all forms of social media, and perhaps some of his or her family members and friends as well. Unfriending, or at least hiding your ex online, can help you avoid the constant temptation to check in and see if your ex is living a life more miserable—or more awesome—than yours. (Besides, you’re too busy enjoying your new salsa meringue dance class to even skim their social media page, right? Right?) These other social media mistakes can also damage your relationships.
Don’t keep reminders around
Delete social media pictures of your happier days (or have a friend do so you don’t get nostalgic), stash away photos you have around the house, and donate that giant teddy bear he won for you at the carnival. Don’t stop there. Take the opportunity to get your whole house organized. You may also want to stay away from mutual places you visited for a few weeks, so fond memories aren’t triggered. It’s time to start anew, and that may include changing up your whole daily routine, at least initially. This gives you time to set new routines and adapt to being single.
Don’t forget to learn something
“I’m a big believer that no relationship is a waste a time if we learn from it,” says Dr. Mann. “Ask yourself, ‘How did I contribute to the relationship’s demise?’ or ‘How can I be a better partner in the future?’” If you’re honest, you can take away something positive from the experience. Find out the science behind a happy marriage.