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Of course, you miss your ex and may still be in shock about the breakup, but don’t plead for a do-over. “If you feel compelled to do so, examine your motivation,” says psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert, a Huffington Post blogger and author of Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days. “Do you miss your ex specifically, or do you miss the idea of having a partner? The two are very different,” he adds. If you’re feeling blue? Here are unusual ways to find happiness.
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Aim to go at least 30 days without contacting your ex if you want to be able to get over a breakup. Thirty days will become 40, then 50…and by then, chances are you’ll be feeling much better and have some additional clarity.
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Mentally create a new ending, by imagining it was you who rejected him or her instead, advises Alpert. “Move from being the rejected to the rejecter. This will change the dynamic and make you feel more empowered and less like a victim.” These science-backed tips can help boost your confidence as you get over a breakup.