Don’t avoid the painiStock/KatarzynaBialasiewicz
To get over a breakup, you may try to avoid your hurt and pain because it’s just too devastating. But you can’t recover from the relationship when you avoid it. “The only way to get to the ‘other side,’ is to go through the pain, instead of around it,” says Dr. Mann. To help you start to feel better, turn to these 26 happiness quotes.
Don’t kiss and tell
When it comes to bad-mouthing your ex, zip it. That’s not the right way to get over a breakup. “Trash talk reflects more on you than it does on your ex,” says Masini. It’s not polite, attractive, or productive. “It drags you down into the mud when what you need is to rise above.” Even though you’re hurting, try to be the bigger person by staying silent about your ex. The exception to the rule? You can, of course, confide in your close friends and family. In a future relationship, if you find out that your partner has cheated, never do these 10 things.
Don’t beat yourself upiStock/dima_sidelnikov
Don’t be too hard on yourself, advises Guy Winch, PhD, a Psychology Today contributor. “Remember that your ego and self-esteem are already hurting—don’t make it worse,” says Dr. Winch. “Be as compassionate toward yourself as you would be to a friend whose heart had just been broken,” he says. If you are struggling to move on, or wish for some outside clarity from someone who doesn’t know your ex, consider talking with a therapist.