Understand the basis of arrogance
Arrogance is a cover for deep insecurity, says Sally Eames, a transformation and legacy coach from Chicago. “Bragging is about building ourselves up to look better to someone else,” explains Eames. “Take away the insecurity, and the bragging becomes a non-issue.”
Don’t compare yourself to others
According to social psycholgist Ilan Shrira, comparative boasting is risky because it can disparage others in your company. “There’s a big difference between saying you’re good vs. saying you’re superior to others or put differently—saying that others are worse than you,” he writes in Psychology Today. Comparative boasting can also come off threatening, he says, even if that’s not the person’s intention. So instead of saying, “I’m smarter than everyone in this room,” simply say, “I’m good at this.” Sounds better, right?