The best way to give a compliment
Everyone likes getting compliments but giving them can feel like walking a tightrope, blindfolded. Knowing how to give a great compliment is one of the secrets of naturally charming people but for many of us, it doesn’t always come naturally. If that’s you, don’t fret; this is definitely a skill you can learn! Here are some expert tips to help craft your kudos.
“The number one rule for giving a great compliment is to be genuine and sincere,” says Diane Gottsman, national etiquette expert, author, and founder of The Protocol School of Texas. An authentic comment will come across as meaningful, memorable, and make the person feel special while a fake platitude can feel worse than nothing at all, making the person wonder if you couldn’t find anything real to compliment them on. Plus it can backfire—giving an insincere compliment can make you seem self-centered or untrustworthy, she explains. These strategies can help you build trust with your coworkers.