They use good body language
Put your phone down and turn to face your conversation partner. “Eliminate, or at least limit, background noise and other distractions so you can concentrate on what the other person is saying,” says Debby Mayne, the etiquette expert for About.com. Make direct eye contact and put your torso and shoulders in his direction. Give him your undivided attention and focus to show that you’re invested in the dialogue. “If you aren’t really paying attention, it shows in your body language,” says Cherie Burbach, author of Art and Faith: Mixed Media Art With a Faith-Filled Message, who writes about listening and friendship at About.com. Even if he isn’t doing the same, you’re setting a good example. Here are other ways to use body language for better relationships.
They watch for nonverbal cues
Words aren’t the only part of the story. When you’re speaking with someone face to face, see if he’s tapping his foot. If he’s looking you in the eye. If his smile is crooked. “Pay attention to the speaker’s expressions and body language,” says Mayne. “She might try to downplay something she’s telling you about, but if she has a look of consternation or closes herself off with folded arms and crossed legs, you’ll know that she’s deeply affected.” Burbach says to look for sighs, rolled eyes, or even frowns. Nonverbal clues are just as important as verbal ones. You’ll have a better chance of spotting nonverbal cues when you pay attention and keep quiet.