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While it’s unbelievably annoying (and nosy) when your Aunt Jean asks when you’re getting married—practically days after you announced your engagement—take heart: It’s quite possible that she’s either trying her best to connect or she’s just conversationally challenged. “Sometimes a big smile and a laugh helps here,” says Andrea Bonior, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist and speaker in Washington, DC, and author of The Friendship Fix. “Just say. ‘Don’t worry you’ll be the first to know!’ And make sure you cross these items off your newly engaged couple checklist.
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Whether you simply don’t want them or have been trying for years with no luck, this nosy question can sting. “With all the awareness of what a touchy subject this could be you would think people wouldn’t ask this but they do,” Dr. Bonior says. “This is personal enough that you should wait a beat, let your eyes get wide and say ‘wow now there’s a question.’ That’s intrusive enough that you have to send a signal that they’ve crossed the line.” On the fence? Here are the questions you need to ask before having kids.