Compliment each other often
There’s nothing better than feeling loved and knowing that our partner is attracted to us—and the best way to achieve this is by complimenting one another. “This reminds us that our partner continues to find us attractive, even when we might not feel our best. It helps us feel wanted,” says Dr. Rahbar. This reboots warm feelings and minimizes conflict and criticism. Start by telling each other things you appreciate about the other person. This will build a cooperative atmosphere and encourage you both to be more open and willing to explore in the bedroom. This is exactly how long women want sex to last.
Turn off all electronic devices
In our tech-savvy world, staying connected is more important than ever, for both our professional and personal lives. But becoming too dependent on our phones, computers, and tablets can be sexual sabotage when it comes to maintaining intimacy with our partner. “Devices have become such a ubiquitous part of daily life that people think nothing of interrupting sexy time to respond to a text or email,” says Dr. Six. “But there’s nothing that can’t wait until you’re done romancing each other, so turn off phones and computers or leave them out of the bedroom completely so you can fully focus on satisfying one another.”
Make your bedroom a sacred space
When you look around your bedroom, does it feel like a place you can let go of your stress? Or is there unfolded laundry in the corner, bills piled on the nightstand, and kids toys under the bed? “It will be difficult for you and your partner to get in the mood for carefree, intimate, connective sex when you’re constantly reminded of your other responsibilities,” says Celeste Holbrook, PhD, sexual health consultant. “Most of us tend to let our bedroom be the catch-all for rotating clutter, however, treating your bedroom like a sacred space to connect with your partner will immediately lift you into a sensual mindset.” Start by cleaning off all the countertops and moving any laundry, toys, or other items off the floor and into other rooms. This way, you’re both released from the burden of your responsibilities—at least until after sexy time. This is the age when you’ll have the best sex of your life.