You sneak junk food
Your spouse is a health nut. You’ve tried to become one, but sometimes slip up. It’s fine if you sneak a few Oreos now and then to satiate a craving. We won’t tell! Mike Goldstein, founder and lead dating coach of EZ Dating Coach, explains that this even happens in his home. He is always trying to eat healthfully and doesn’t keep desserts in the house. However, his girlfriend loves chocolate. So she hides it in places he won’t find it. “This is a great compromise for the two of us,” says Goldstein. “She gets what she wants and so do I.”
He’s not the best lover you’ve ever had
Nothing compares to your spouse. You definitely don’t want to be with anyone else; sex is always better because it’s with your spouse. But from time to time, you do find yourself wistfully reflecting on your amazing times in the bedroom with an old flame —and that’s totally normal. “Realistically, the one you marry doesn’t need to be the best lover,” says Goldstein. It’s ok to fantasize about what an ex did in bed every now and then. Just keep these fantasies to yourself to protect your partner’s ego. “Sex should rarely be a total dealbreaker if the rest of the package is phenomenal,” says Goldstein. “Not to mention, sex can be coached and improved over time.” Stop and ask yourself how he can get better. “Don’t tell him that he’s not the best lover you have had,” says Lisa Hochberger, M.Ed., a sexologist, sex educator and relationship expert. “Instead, show him how to be the best lover you have ever had. Communication is key to having better sex.” These are habits of couples with steamy sex lives.