You’re not owning your age
For lots of hopeful daters, age is just a number, as long as it’s not their own. One of the main pet peeves matchmakers have is clients who lie about their age. “Most new singles calling or talking to a matchmaker on the phone say, ‘I’m in my 50s, but everyone says they are shocked because I look like I’m in my 30s,'” says Tammy Shaklee, founder and president of He’s For Me, a matchmaking service for gay men. “Use any number over 40, and we hear that line. Most often when we meet them in person, they look like a good version of their age.” Shaklee coaches singles to own their age. “Be proud of how well you’ve taken care of yourself. Your fitness level, sunscreen, healthy lifestyle choices—be proud that you are rocking 44, 54, 64, or 104.”
You’re already married—to an outdated look
Seeking a new start, with a new love, is the perfect time to reassess your current choices for clothing, makeup, and style. Consider it a spring cleaning for your look. Throw out the scuffed shoes and the lipstick you rocked in 1985, and take your matchmaker’s advice on how to spiff up your style. “A matchmaker’s job is to send their clients out on dates looking, and feeling their best, to get results. Clients must be open to honest feedback, get an updated look, and a new attitude, if they want to magnetize their match,” says matchmaker and author, Renee Piane. “Often clients don’t listen and get frustrated. Even on a budget, you can tune up your style. That can build confidence, and also make you feel spicy.” Here’s how to find your personal style, courtesy of the fashion gurus at Stitch Fix.