Don’t say: Ex
Nobody needs to hear about your ex on the very first date. If the two of you make it past the night, you’ll have plenty of time to delve into your romantic pasts. And if you do find yourself fighting the urge to bring up your ex, it’s worth asking yourself—later—what’s going on. Is it because you want to talk about what you don’t want in a relationship? Or do you want to show your date how much you’ve moved on? Or is it to reassure your date that he/she is so much better than your ex? Going on a date isn’t only about getting to know the other person better—it might also tell you more about yourself. (Also dreading those awkward first date silences? Try these tricks to avoid it.)
Don’t say: maybe/kinda/sorta/probably
Researchers from Stanford University and University of California, Santa Barbara analyzed the transcripts from more than 900 speed dates to learn what made a pair feel like they clicked on a date, and what kept them from clicking. One finding: When a date—and in particular, a woman—used hedge words such as “maybe,” “kinda,” “sorta,” and “probably,” the words signaled detachment and discomfort to her or his partner, putting distance between them. Also wise to avoid: some of these most annoying phrases in the English language.