Resist calling and texting your partner when she’s with her friends
Instead of the urge to constantly text or call (which insinuates mistrust), try to turn your attention away from the fixation. “Take a deep breath, put the phone down, and focus your attention on fun activities that you could be doing,” suggests Kathryn Esquer, PsyD, MBA, a psychologist in private practice in Jacksonville, Florida. Go out with your own friends, exercise, watch that basketball game—whatever it takes. Avoid these habits that destroy trust in a relationship.
Counter the decision to stay home and pine
Rather than sit in the house waiting for him to come home, venture out with your friends to have fun, advises Dr. Esquer. “Couples that pursue their individual interests have more to talk about when spending time together,” she says. “Plus, you’ll have less mental energy to spend on worries and paranoia if you’re too busy having fun yourself.” Here are signs you can totally trust your partner.