You say you’re available, but you’re not…legally
You probably already know that if you’re waiting for the “right time” to tell the person you’re dating that you’re married, both of your relationships are probably doomed to failure. And, it doesn’t matter if you’re separated, planning to divorce (someday), or none of the above. “Lying about availability for a relationship is devastating for partners who discover their significant other has been dishonest. Sometimes people lie, and say they are single when they are not, or they may lie about whether or not they have children. This is never fair to the person being lied to, or to the people being lied about,” says Shadeen Francis, MFT, marriage and family therapist. Francis recommends telling the truth about your external romantic, and familial relationships up front, before you get involved. Don’t even think about dating post-divorce until you’ve done these 11 things.