16 Relationship Resolutions Every Couple Should Make
Surprise: It’s not enough to just tell your partner you love them! Pick one (or more!) of these expert relationship resolutions to make 2019 the year you star in your own personal rom-com, happy ending and all.
Don’t throw away those vacation brochures
“January sometimes feels a bit flat after the excitement of the festive season, so resolve to book a weekend break sometime in the coming year. This could be as simple as an overnight stay in a different city or going to a concert.” Alex Reddle, counselor, online dating specialist, and chief editor of the Flirt.com blog.
The couple that serves together, stays together
“A great resolution is to get involved in a worthwhile charity venture together, like a race or fundraiser. You’ll have great fun training together, egging each other on, and all for an excellent cause. Plus, you’ll make great memories.” —Reddle. Or try one of these 19 ways to strengthen your relationship in just one hour.
Stop making assumptions
“Make this the year you consciously make fewer assumptions. Start by creating guidelines with your partner on how you both navigate and communicate during times where there is concern, misunderstanding, or a difficult issue is essential. Then you won’t be tempted guess what they really mean, leading to a happier relationship.” Lawrence Lovell, counselor, coach, and the founder of Breakthrough Solutions. Practice these 11 strategies for improving your communication skills.
Do the three “A’s” every day
“Resolve to do the ‘triple A checklist’ daily, consisting of attention, affection, and appreciation. We all need attention, affection, and the feeling of being appreciated in our life, and it is great when you can give and get that from your partner on a regular basis.” —Lovell. Don’t be shy! Here are 11 times it’s okay to show a little PDA.
Make 5 your lucky number
“Research has found that happy couples have a ratio of at least five positive interactions for every one negative interaction. This year resolve to be intentional about doing or saying at least five good things for you spouse every day. Some ideas include sending a small text of encouragement, doing a chore the other hates, putting down your phone when your partner is talking to you, and planning a date night.” —Kristina Zufall, MEd, a couples counselor in Houston, Texas. Hint: This is one of the top 10 daily habits of couples in healthy relationships.
Schedule a daily debrief
“I encourage couples to make a resolution to schedule 15 to 20 minutes each day for a number of reasons: You have something to look forward to throughout your day. You demonstrate to your partner that they are a priority and the relationship is a priority. You can use this as a time to show your partner care an support. The point is to spend time talking every day.” —Zufall