Look for the positive
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Sure, you might be stuck in traffic. (Will. I. Ever. Move. Again?) But now you have some extra time to listen to that podcast you’ve been meaning to check out. Annoyed that rain ruined your weekend plans? At least you won’t need to water the lawn tomorrow. “Think about what might be positive or humorous about the situation,” suggests Samantha Berkule Johnson, PhD, a board-certified life coach in New York City. “Ask yourself how can you make it fun or beneficial, at least for the time being.” Here are really good reasons to feel optimistic on a rainy day.
“Even five to 10 minutes each day of quiet sitting, deep breathing, and clearing your mind can help alleviate anxiety and stress,” says Dr. Johnson. A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that participants who meditated daily experienced more positive emotions over time. Ditch your phone and take a tiny vacation from anything complaint-worthy. It will help you reboot and may even lead to a new, positive outlook. These mini meditations can banish stress from your brain.
Hone in on why you feel prickly
“Vague, general complaints usually refer to problems that have no solution,” psychotherapist Lisa M. Juliano, PsyD, writes on PsychologyToday.com. If you’re complaining that your house is a mess, maybe the real issue is that your kids aren’t cleaning up after themselves. Whining that your boss is a jerk? You might be frustrated that late meetings are causing you to miss your train. Pinpointing the cause is the first step to seeking a solution.