First, understand feeling lonely is not an illness, it’s a state of mind
Loneliness is not a condition to be treated but rather a natural part of the human experience. And that’s a good thing says Mayra Mendez, PhD, LMFT, program coordinator of mental health services at Providence Saint John’s Child and Family Development Center in Santa Monica, California. “The most helpful thing to know about loneliness is that it isn’t something that happens to you, it’s something you can control,” she says. “It’s okay to be lonely sometimes, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.”
Do a little good
Serving other people is one of the best ways not to feel lonely and even make some lifelong friends, Mendez says. Volunteering at a local school or library, knitting blankets for babies at the hospital, bringing meals to the elderly, being a Big Brother/Big Sister, teaching a scout troop—the options are endless. Service will get you out in the community and help you feel like you’re making a real difference: two essential things for living a full, happy life.