Details of your last fight
Your fights aren’t for public consumption. “If you tell others about your last fight, they, rather than your partner, will help solve the issue,” says Gilda Carle, PhD, author of Don’t Lie on Your Back for a Guy Who Doesn’t Have Yours. “Then you and your partner won’t have the know-how to navigate the next difficult problem.” Plus, they may end up going against him. If all they hear are the “facts” that you presented, they may question why you’re together in the first place. “You can’t get angry with your friend because you’re the one who told her all the details,” says Kristie Overstreet, a licensed professional clinical counselor, certified sex therapist and author of Fix Yourself First: 25 Tips to Stop Ruining Your Relationship. Here are some other things you should never do after a fight with your partner.
The nitty gritty of your sex life
“Do you want a twosome or a threesome?” says Dr. Carle. “Filling others in on what goes on between your sheets makes your intimacy a group event.” When you’re not having sex, how often you have it, his sexual fantasies; the raunchy details of your intimate life should be kept under the covers. “Your sex life shouldn’t become someone else’s fantasy,” says Sara Nasserzadeh, PhD, a sexuality and relationship consultant and coauthor of The Orgasm Answer Guide. “Not to mention that by learning all about you and your partner’s likes and dislikes in bed, you put yourself at risk of your friend becoming the confidante and provider of those likes to your partner.” If you’re having problems in the bedroom, discuss it with your partner. Otherwise, speak with a therapist who can help you figure out why you’re having these issues.