15 Things You Should Never Say over Text or Email
Before you hit the send button on that text message or email, read this list of things you should never communicate through a screen.
No matter how much you hate your job—or what lead you to decide to quit in the first place—avoid making it official via text or email. “Say it in your head but keep it there and not on any electronic device because it will come back to haunt you,” warns Jacquelyn Youst, certified etiquette consultant and founder and president of the Pennsylvania Academy of Protocol. “A resignation via email may feel good in the heat of the moment, but will have long-term consequences.” Instead, she recommends maintaining your professional demeanor and discussing it with your boss either on the telephone or in person. Don’t miss these other 9 things you should never do over text.
Credit card information
You’re trying to buy something from Amazon when you realize—d’oh!—the credit card you wanted to use is in your partner’s wallet. It seems easy enough to send out a text or email asking for the payment info, but that leaves you vulnerable to credit card fraud. Email is one of the riskiest ways to send credit card information, according to creditcards.com, because it’s one of the easiest systems to hack. Your emails also don’t disappear; unless you and the recipient delete them fully, they could still be hiding in your inbox or deleted items. Text messages are more secure, but unless you’re diligent about deleting texts, that information is wide open for prying eyes. To give a credit card number from far away, it’s “better to call and give the credit card number over the phone,” says Wagner.
Especially at work, email seems like the no-brainer way to remind a colleague of a password. But we can’t stress enough how unsecure emails are. Normally, a password is hidden when you type, but an email leaves the text totally clear. It’s stored in different systems while traveling between inboxes, leaving your login information open to hackers. If someone does send your password over email, it’s best to change it immediately, suggests cloud computing company Connectria.
These days, it’s fine to share your big news with most of your social circle on Facebook, but your partner, family, and close friends should hear it directly from you. Ideally, you should tell loved ones face-to-face or over the phone, using a heartfelt email as a last resort. But the one person who should never hear your pregnancy announcement via email is your boss, who will need to start thinking about maternity cover. Instead, pick a quiet time to have a one-on-one with your manager, Georgene Huang, CEO and co-founder of Fairygodboss, tells Parents. “This way you can gauge your boss’ immediate reaction and get a general sense of his attitude,” she says. And make sure your boss doesn’t find out on Facebook first! These are 11 photos you should never share on social media.
Someone on your team just emailed a finished project … with the same mistakes as there always are. Before firing back details about how to improve, consider meeting face-to-face about areas to work on. “I’ve never seen constructive feedback given over email taken well,” Amanda B. Gulino, HR expert and founder of A Better Monday tells GlassDoor. “On the contrary, it has created a whole host of new problems, including lack of trust.” Keep your email response upbeat, then delve into the not-so-fun stuff when the other person can gauge your reaction better. Next, find out which other 11 annoying phrases you should never write in an email.