13 Texting Etiquette Rules You Should Be Following by Now—but Aren’t
For better or for worse, texting is almost as prevalent as talking, so it pays to stay on top of the constantly evolving rules of text etiquette.
Why text etiquette matters
Ever since the first text message was sent on December 3, 1992, texting has evolved into our most widely used form of communication. Super-convenient? Absolutely. But like all forms of interpersonal interaction, it can lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and worse. That's where texting etiquette comes in. Defined by the Emily Post Institute (which is regarded by many as the "last word" on etiquette) as a "code of behavior based on treating others with honesty, respect, and consideration," etiquette can go a long way toward avoiding texting mishaps, including miscommunications and hurt feelings. Here's what you need to know right now.
Don't text and drive
It's that simple, according to the Post Institute. Don't do it. Personal safety always comes first and staying off your hand-held while driving is paramount. If you can't resist, then keep your phone where you can't reach it while you're driving. Here's are the annoying email habits you'll want to curb.
Don't put others in the situation of texting and driving
If you're texting someone who says "driving," stop texting. Period. Don't even say "OK." Just stop texting. You can consider calling the person, but please bear in mind that some states have laws in place restricting talking on the phone while driving, and some folks aren't comfortable talking on the phone while driving.
Although texting seems to be taking the place of some other forms of communication, it really can't. Some messages are simply too long to convey via text. When that's the case, "make a phone call instead," suggests the Post Institute. Or at the very least, consider email instead. This is especially important if you actually wish for the other person's reply to be responsive; the more points you throw at them in a single text, the less likely they are to respond to any of those points.
Speaking of responding, Fortune magazine points out that texting can be a source of "acute" anxiety. After hitting send, the sender experiences anxiety waiting for a response, and the recipient experiences pressure to respond within some set period of time or risk breaching texting etiquette (just ask a teenager). Google is working toward designing a phone interface that will ease some of these tensions (good luck with that, Google!), but until then, studies show that you have about 20 minutes to respond to a message before the sender starts to grow impatient. Here are some other cell phone etiquette tips you should know, too.
But if you don't get a response, chill
"Don't keep texting until they respond," an article in LifeHack suggests. "They're probably busy. And if they're not, maybe they just don't feel like texting." While not getting a response likely makes you feel anxious, and while many consider it rude, it's also rude to continue bombarding someone with messages when that person is not replying to you.
Avoid group texts
"Most would say group texts are the worst," notes an article in Mashable. "They take up more time than you ever anticipated, reading through all of your messages is a chore, and they seem to never end. Like, never end." No one likes them, so don't be the one to start one if you can possibly avoid it. Texting etiquette demands that you think of, basically, any other means of communication. Here are 10 rules of elevator etiquette you might not realize exist.
If you MUST group-text, follow these guidelines
- Before including someone, consider if they really will want to be included and whether their schedule is consistent with the rest of the group you have in mind.
- Don't send lots of one-word texts, which everyone will inevitably find annoying.
- Don't point out lack of activity ("Hey, where'd everyone go?"), and otherwise remind people they're in a group text. "Literally, no one cares," Mashable points out.
- Don't be afraid to mute the thread or leave the group.
- If you leave the group, consider giving a heads up.
Don't send personal texts using your business Wi-Fi
If you send or receive a text from a company-owned device or over your company network, the message is considered company domain, according to Entrepreneur. That's bad enough for you, but think about how bad it is for the recipient, who may have no idea of this privacy issue. These little rules of business etiquette to help you get ahead.
Don't send texts in front of other people
Just as you shouldn't answer your phone during a conversation, you shouldn't text when you're engaged with someone else, the Post Institute points out, and if you find yourself with someone who won't stop texting during your conversation, it's perfectly acceptable to excuse yourself until they've concluded their messaging.