TMI Guy or Girl aka the one who shares too much
GaudiLab/Shutterstock TMI, as you likely know, stands for “too much information,” but it’s not just an acronym, according to April Masini, relationship and etiquette expert, it’s an office scourge. Does anyone really want to know where you are in your menstrual cycle? Or how your fantasy football team did over the weekend? Or that you’re on the cabbage-soup-cleanse? If you even had to think about it, you actually might be TMI Guy, in which case, please listen: Forcing too much information on your coworkers is an easy mistake to make because there isn’t all that much personal information that your coworkers should, or should want to, know about you. So just keep in mind that in the office, sharing is not caring. As Masini explains, it’s not only annoying, it’s downright offensive in that it pushes the limits of acceptable personal boundaries. And while you’re at it, curb those probing personal questions you ask your co-workers. No one likes a mosey Nelly. A better tactict? Try these strategies to help build trust with your co-workers.
Gossip Girl or Guy, aka the one who shares too much about others
Joana Lopes/Shutterstock Gossiping about co-workers may be a mainstay of office-based sitcom television, but in the real world, it’s destructive and unethical. At first, it might seem fun—a way of bonding with coworkers. But the very moment it begins, another dynamic begins right alongside of it: bullying, explains Heather Monahan, an expert on business and women’s empowerment. When gossip gets going, someone is the object, or more accurately, the target. But not only does the target suffer, knowingly or unknowingly, those engaged in the gossiping suffer too because anyone who gossips must understand that at some point, the tables may turn, and they will become the target. The takeaway here is: don’t gossip with or about your coworkers. And if you find yourself on other side, make sure to keep a written record of any instances in which you have felt bullied as a result. That written record will serve you well should you decide to bring a complaint to the Human Resources. Think your colleagues might be toxic? Learn the signs you can’t trust your coworkers.