When you get angry…Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.com, iStock
If you’re prone to outbursts, learn to recognize the symptoms of your anger. Maybe your heart rate speeds up or your body feels tight. When you sense those signals coming on, pause, take a deep breath (which signals your brain to calm down), and rewind to how you felt before those feelings began. You’ll be able to think more logically about how to react and handle a tricky situation.
When you notice a problem…Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.com, iStock
When a problem arises, our instinct is to go into self-defense mode, blaming others to keep face among our peers. But since that’s everyone’s instinct, the result is a whole lot of blame and not enough resolution. Make fixing the problem your first priority, regardless of who or what caused it. Then go back and brainstorm ways to prevent the issue from happening in the future. By not singling anyone out, you’re also building relationships with the other people involved. Only you can control your response to a problem. Make sure it’s a constructive one.