How to Rise Above Rude Behavior

[step-list-wrapper title=”” time=””]You can come out of the house now: Good manners are back in style. But there’s always going

[step-list-wrapper title=”” time=””]You can come out of the house now: Good manners are back in style. But there’s always going to be someone who will rain on your parade. We consulted Judith Martin (Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior) and civility expert P. M. Forni (The Civility Solution: What to Do When People Are Rude) for their tips on how to behave like a human being even when you’re tested.

[step-item number=”1.” image_url=”” title=”Presume goodwill.” ] “This gives the other person a face-saving way to change his or her behavior. Any diplomat will tell you that the way to negotiate is to give people a graceful way to do what you want them to do,” says Martin.[/step-item]

[step-item number=”2.” image_url=”” title=”Don’t fight rudeness with rudeness.” ] “When people encounter rude behavior in others, they often retaliate with rude behavior,” says Martin. “This doubles the amount of rudeness—it doesn’t reduce it.” [/step-item]

[step-item number=”3.” image_url=”” title=”Remain calm.” ] “Nowadays, everyone comes out swinging,” says Martin. “[But] we do have to control our tempers—that’s civilization.” [/step-item]

[step-item number=”4.” image_url=”” title=”Practice restraint.” ] “If it’s something minor from a stranger, ignore rude behavior,” says Forni. “If it’s from a spouse, friend, or coworker, address it in a polite, clear, positive way.” [/step-item]

[step-item number=”5.” image_url=”” title=”Teach good manners early.” ] “When that’s done,” says Forni, “children are less likely to become narcissistic and abusive adults.” [/step-item]

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Originally Published in Reader's Digest