Pay for your own bridesmaid dress
Unless the bride offers to pay, be prepared to pay for your own dress. But Kellee Khalil, founder of Loverly, a virtual wedding planning site, shares that if your bride knows it’s a struggle, she can—and should—offer to help.
Help plan the bridal shower
While Khalil says planning the entire bridal shower falls under the maid-of-honor’s duties, you should be prepared to help and be an active participant. (Here are some tips for the maid-of-honor on a bride’s big day.)
Try to attend all bridal events
Attending all bridal events is a must for a bridesmaid, Khalil says, except, of course, if you live out of town or have another family obligation. “Never say you’re too busy to participate in any pre-wedding event,” shares Cristen Flaherty, event planner and founder of Cristen & Co. Event Coordination & Design. “Everyone is busy and that is a poor excuse and you will simply upset the bride for not being a part of all the festivities.” And remember, throwing a bridal shower doesn’t have to be a huge expense.