You Google yourself and others
Pew Research findings reveal that more than half of Internet users have typed their own name in search engines to see what details about them will surface online. So, you’re not alone. Chances are, you’ve also checked out names of people from days gone by. But is this good? Yes and no, says Julia Breur, PhD, a licensed clinical psychotherapist in Boca Raton, Florida. She recalls a patient who turned to the Internet after a divorce to look up past classmates. “This online activity helped her through a painful breakup,” Dr. Breur says. “Today she happily travels across the U.S. visiting friends from her high school.” The downside? Just be aware of the Internet’s scary aspects. She warns of things like cyberbullying and scams. Here’s what your fears reveal about your personality.
You have another “I’d like to thank the Academy” daydream
Monkey-Business-Images/Shutterstock Do you ever think about your reaction if you won the lottery or imagine yourself accepting a coveted work promotion after just two months on the job? It’s normal to daydream. Psychologists estimate that people daydream for one-third to one-half of their waking hours, despite the fact that a single daydream lasts for only a few minutes. Interestingly, such thoughts can help increase creativity, diminish stress, and generate positive life experiences.
You talk to yourself
Antonio-Guillem/Shutterstock Much like daydreaming, talking to yourself can help you organize your thoughts and even help you realize certain goals. “Sometimes we catch ourselves doing this in public, which can be embarrassing because we don’t want to be seen as ‘crazy,’ but it’s completely normal,” says Schneberger. “Everyone does it.” She explains that talking out loud to yourself “is an unfiltered unconscious response to surveying our environment” in which you’re conveying what’s on your mind without feeling as though you have to alter your words or be judged by them. Dr. Breur agrees, adding that talking to yourself may help you sort out the many responsibilities and pressures you face as you go throughout life. She says to be mindful of negative self-talk though. Phrases such as “I’m so stupid” can be emotionally damaging, so try to replace such statements with more positive ones. Here are some ways to stop being so hard on yourself.