After receiving a gift
When someone takes the time to pick out, wrap, and send you a thoughtful gift, sending thank you notes is a necessity. Whether it’s for your birthday, wedding, or baby shower, these gifts are given with love. “Medium is part of the message,” notes Daniel Post Senning, spokesperson for The Emily Post Institute and co-host of “The Awesome Etiquette Podcast.” “Your level of intent is illustrated with a handwritten note.” Choose nice stationary or cards and include a thoughtful message. Senning explains that these notes don’t have to be long—thank the individual for the gift, and for their attendance to your event or shower if they were present, and include a follow up as to how you will use the item and if possible, when you will see them next! Here are some tips for writing a heartfelt thank you.
After a dinner party or being treated to a meal
Dinner parties are tough on the hosts. Send a nice thank you following to ensure that they know that their efforts were appreciated by their guests. This is particularly important if the dinner is in a professional capacity. “This is your opportunity to make an impact,” says Senning. Not sure what to write in your thank you notes? “Model after a thank you note after one that you’ve received and like,” he adds. Follow these etiquette rules when you visit someone’s home.
When someone does you a favor
Did a friend babysit your kid when your babysitter canceled? Did a coworker help you out with a major project? If someone takes their personal time to do you a favor when you were in a bind, it is your responsibility to thank them. When in doubt, “if you can’t thank them for it in person, reply with a handwritten note,” says Senning. Here are some suggested gifts to give.